Thrifted: Being Trans In 2017

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Being trans is a different experience for everyone. Some people are much more fortunate than others in many different areas. They may have a family that fully supports them and a community to speak to when things get rough. Others have to keep their true self hidden for a long time or never get the chance to share their true self. It’s unfortunate, but is a harsh reality of the world we live in today.

There is a lot of progress being made with television, showing that trans people do in fact exist and we aren’t the stereotype many know. We are real people who go through real situations that cisgender folks go through every day; we just happen to have the extra burden of society’s expectations on our shoulders. Unfortunately we still have a long way to go regarding the portrayal of trans people in the media. Shows like Jerry Springer and Maury paint us as deceptive human beings, and love making a spectacle out of us. It’s not only damaging to the trans folks involved but also to the community as a whole. There are, however, shows out there which allow us to showcase our true selves before the world, free of scripts and agendas.

As a child, I never knew the true definition of being a trans person. I only knew what television had taught me, which was a very harmful stereotype that I won’t share. In turn, as I was growing up, I had an image in my head of what I, as a trans person, should be like. This was very harmful to my upbringing, but, while I was still in high school, the internet showed me the light. I was able to shed that negative image, and carve out my own, of which I’m very proud today. However, many people do not get that luxury. Many of my trans brothers and sisters are so oppressed and buried by negativity and hatred that their self image is not the one they wish it could be.

If you know of anyone going through this struggle and they have no one to turn to, whether it be online or in person, please be that shoulder to cry on, and a person to whom they can vent. If they need assistance in getting out, please try your best to help them in that situation. Sometimes, simply being aware of their struggle may help them more than you realize. Please be sure, however, to stay within their boundaries, and DO NOT, under any circumstances, out that person to the public. That is something that can be tremendously damaging, especially if the person is in a hostile environment.

So, if I want you to take anything way from my writing today, it’s this: Please make sure to always ask and use people’s preferred pronouns, trans or not. Make sure to treat others the way you would want to be treated, because you never know what they’re going through. Sometimes it only takes one straw to break the camel’s back. And lastly, please speak up if you see trans folk being bullied or harassed; allies have much more power in society than us, so please make sure to use it for good.

Also, here’s a master list of resources for trans folks and allies. Stay strong, you guys: http://www.glaad.org/transgender/resources

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So, what’s your stance on the trans discussion? Let me know in the comments below! Also, please keep it respectful. I want a positive discussion and to hear your positive stories.

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7 comments

  1. Well done for your bravery. I can imagine it is not easy but it is slowly becoming more accepted and known. I think a lot of people didn’t know about these struggles people were having. So it is good to get it out and educate people.

  2. Hi…. thanks so much for this post. A little about myself and why this resonated with me…. and forgive me for my ignorance. I am a UK male fast approaching my 60’s. I come from a very traditional family, that is reasonably close by western standards, we meet up regularly and can often have often have over 2o twenty brothers, sisters, aunts uncles nieces nephews and cousins together at family events. Unfortunately, we are all a bit sarcastic in our humour and there is a lot of banter and ribbing! Recently my Niece stated that they no longer wished to be called by their given name, but instead wanted to know as Drew. They stated that they did not identify as male or female but as non-binary gender. They asked us to refer to them in non-binary pronouns. (I have had to go back and edit out all the ‘she’s in this post). My brothers and I did not understand it, but we did respect it, on their part they were not to precious if we slipped up now and then and used their old name or made a gender specific comment (believe me, that is a BIG help). It’s hard enough for old school like me to try and respect their wishes, it would have been impossible if every slip was met with an outburst or extream reaction. The thing is, they are still the same person, we dont see them as any different from before, and that makes it even harder for us to understand why this is important to them. I find your blog post, although not exactly the same situation, really helpful as I seek to gain a better understanding. To be honest I am not sure what the difference between trans and gender neutral is, but your story resonated with me, made me think and challenged me to be more aware. Thank yo so much for sharing your story.

    1. Tony, your comment really made me smile and tear up a little bit. I’m glad that your family is accepting and understanding of said relatives wishes, It can be a very scary world out there for trans and non-binary folk, so we need all the love and support we can get. Send Drew my love ❤️

  3. I don’t know you, but I’m proud of you. It’s hard to be different in today’s world. And I admire you for being an good example of what can happen if you don’t let the world tell you who you are.

  4. I would say that my stance on the trans discussion is that it’s not any of my business. Not in a rude or demeaning way at all. In a way that, I shouldn’t be able to bully others into living their lives the way I live mine. I never understood that philosophy. If we all lived the same way, can you imagine how boring and monotonous the world would be? It’s just hard for me to understand how people go out of their way to belittle others or be mean, just because they are different. I say, if it’s not in any way directly affecting or hurting you, move on. I plan to use my voice to help those that feel that they can’t use theirs, because I understand what it’s like to go through feeling as if no one will stand up for you.

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