Being trans is a different experience for everyone. Some people are much more fortunate than others in many different areas. They may have a family that fully supports them and a community to speak to when things get rough. Others have to keep their true self hidden for a long time or never get the chance to share their true self. It’s unfortunate, but is a harsh reality of the world we live in today.
There is a lot of progress being made with television, showing that trans people do in fact exist and we aren’t the stereotype many know. We are real people who go through real situations that cisgender folks go through every day; we just happen to have the extra burden of society’s expectations on our shoulders. Unfortunately we still have a long way to go regarding the portrayal of trans people in the media. Shows like Jerry Springer and Maury paint us as deceptive human beings, and love making a spectacle out of us. It’s not only damaging to the trans folks involved but also to the community as a whole. There are, however, shows out there which allow us to showcase our true selves before the world, free of scripts and agendas.
As a child, I never knew the true definition of being a trans person. I only knew what television had taught me, which was a very harmful stereotype that I won’t share. In turn, as I was growing up, I had an image in my head of what I, as a trans person, should be like. This was very harmful to my upbringing, but, while I was still in high school, the internet showed me the light. I was able to shed that negative image, and carve out my own, of which I’m very proud today. However, many people do not get that luxury. Many of my trans brothers and sisters are so oppressed and buried by negativity and hatred that their self image is not the one they wish it could be.
If you know of anyone going through this struggle and they have no one to turn to, whether it be online or in person, please be that shoulder to cry on, and a person to whom they can vent. If they need assistance in getting out, please try your best to help them in that situation. Sometimes, simply being aware of their struggle may help them more than you realize. Please be sure, however, to stay within their boundaries, and DO NOT, under any circumstances, out that person to the public. That is something that can be tremendously damaging, especially if the person is in a hostile environment.
So, if I want you to take anything way from my writing today, it’s this: Please make sure to always ask and use people’s preferred pronouns, trans or not. Make sure to treat others the way you would want to be treated, because you never know what they’re going through. Sometimes it only takes one straw to break the camel’s back. And lastly, please speak up if you see trans folk being bullied or harassed; allies have much more power in society than us, so please make sure to use it for good.
Also, here’s a master list of resources for trans folks and allies. Stay strong, you guys: http://www.glaad.org/transgender/resources
So, what’s your stance on the trans discussion? Let me know in the comments below! Also, please keep it respectful. I want a positive discussion and to hear your positive stories.
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